Decompressing the rejection of the almighty NO
They say “no” but they mean:
not now
Part I: poor timing
I often answer my phone either at home or at work and then I decide after talking for half a minute if I want to continue talking or not. At this point I decide how important this call is to me at this moment in time.
a) I’m busy (I want to get back to what I am doing)
b) can’t focus on that now (my thoughts are distracted elsewhere so my attention and priority is elsewhere)
c) not in right mindset ATM so would rather be clear and say no now. (the many choices I have right now with my time is not do be doing this right now, I’ve heard enough to know I don’t want to continue discussing this at the moment)
d ) procrastination and/or prioritizing of time : I can always revisit this on my own terms and check it out in the future. I just don’t want to do it at this particular timeline or time frame. I control the timing.
Disinterest now doesn’t mean disinterest later.
Unavailability now doesn’t mean unavailable later.
I am open and willing to continue talking on another occasion. Will the caller give me that choice? Will he follow up and call back another time like he said he would? Will he offer me another choice of a better time or ask me to commit to one? Will he offer me information to peruse before our next conversation?
As the caller I will ask for the next step.
No, not now means perhaps another day, another time.
Can I call you in two days at this time? May I call you another time?
May I email you more info regarding what I’m calling about and call you back next week?
Are mornings a better time to reach you? Earlier in the week?
What I am calling about is important and I respect your time.
When can we continue this conversation?
